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Let’s Talk About Sex…


THE BACKSTORY: We believe in gender self-determination, don’t believe that gender is binary, and plan to not assign our child a gender, doing gender neutral parenting. When you’re pregnant, however, one of the top questions  you get is asking your baby’s gender (if not the number one). Marco and I both have complicated relationships with our own gender and are gender nonconforming, having struggled with society’s expectations of us as individuals based on how people perceive our gender and how they then police us based on their ideas of how we should be conforming to their gender binary expectations. Remember that your biological attributes (such as external genitalia, sex chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, and internal reproductive structures) are NOT the same as gender! Gender roles are a social construct, one that changes from culture to culture and has changed over time dramatically), and gender identity is personally defined! We want our child to develop without the artificially created limitations that society has placed around gender and to be protected from the constant gender-stereotyping that society tried to foist on all of us before we’re even out of the womb. We don’t want people giving our child specific goals or limitations based on how they perceive their gender, we want them to have room to grow and understand their own identity on their own terms.

And, maybe, in 10 or 20 years with this kind of support toward their autonomy, this little one will be educating us on smashing the gender binary and other social justice topics. <3


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One Comment

  1. Jen Chaney
    Posted June 15, 2017 at 7:15 pm | Permalink

    My reply has been “we’re not finding out the sex until the baby is born, and I assume they’ll tell us their gender when they’re ready.”

    *blink, blink, huh?*

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